I just found that video and I was shocked. Recently, Bidens judge said, she cannot define a women. I agree that you just have to claim to be something and than you are it, because that fit my agenda on other topics.
I think the same about starseeds and magicians. I see this as a self imposed term. But in that case, you should not allow or finance surgery and hormone therapy, because this is dangerous and this would encrease stereotypes about men and women, that you have to take hormones to be a specific gender and have to look like a specific way to be a man or a woman.
So this is counterproductive. I also dont know, why they cannot realize their contradiction.
I think, you should push the agenda that is the least harmful for everybody. And the agenda that you dont have to take hormones and dont need surgery to be a specific gender would be the least harmful and best solution.