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<blockquote data-quote="SomethingCursed" data-source="post: 167339" data-attributes="member: 10097"><p>I'm a fairly young guy (not old enough to even legally drink yet), but I've always wanted to pass on my genes.. ever since I was.. 13 or 14 years old. It's just something I've always had a drive and push to do.</p><p></p><p>The concept of having a son or daughter, admittedly, pushes me on to flirt and try to pickup just about every suitable (see: attractive) woman in my vicinity. (I've been at my new job for not even a week, already went for 4 girls lol. All blondes! Working on my 5th. Driven, not desperate (; I'll find a suitable mate here eventually! cx)</p><p></p><p>But there is still something in the back of my mind telling me to NOT do such a thing, yet, my head (both kinds) is telling me that I MUST have kids, so i'm kind of at odds with myself here.</p><p></p><p>There is a sort of.. struggle, going on. </p><p></p><p>I have many concerns here, divorce can be devastating not only to the family but to ones personal piggy bank. Kids can weigh you down and prevent you from accomplishing things that you've always wanted to.</p><p></p><p>On the flip side however, you will have a sort of informal insurance policy. If SHTF, you have people there of your own blood who wouldn't mind (ideally) to take care of you should you fall ill.</p><p></p><p>There is the plus of having something here when you leave, if you die after having kids.. a certain part of you will always live on.</p><p></p><p>If you didn't like the way your dad (or mom) raised you, you have an opportunity to do something different. </p><p></p><p>Having kids is a positive thing, it's a blessing. And in a world full of distrust, negativity and struggle.. it's kinda nice having something like a kid to look after. It's nice being able to have a relationship with a brand new human that you and someone else has created.</p><p></p><p>It's a miracle tbh.</p><p></p><p>But kids (and divorce) can suck away every dime you've ever made and will ever make. Not to mention alimony, lawyer fees, court costs and child support if SRHTF.</p><p></p><p>So, again, i'm at a loss here. It's like, damned if you do, damned if you don't.</p><p></p><p>I'm going to be very successful in life, in my career (see: day job) and beyond. But I don't want to have success at the expense of not having kids.</p><p></p><p>I tend to believe in a certain unpopular pseudo-scientific principle.. and I believe it applies to me. That is, my genes are too damn good NOT to pass on. I'd be doing a disservice to mankind if I decided to opt out of having kids. Just being honest here.</p><p></p><p>Basically, what is your opinion on having kids and/or getting married? Would you recommend it? If you could go back in time and tell your younger self one thing.. would you warn him/her to not have kids?</p><p></p><p>Is divorce really as terrible (financially and otherwise) as I'm told?</p><p></p><p>And finally, what advice would you have for an 18 YR old guy from America who is planning on having kids in the very near (see: 3-5 years, ideally a bit earlier) future? </p><p></p><p>Do you believe marriage is an essential part to having kids? Can one not be married, have kids and still have a successful family there?</p><p></p><p><strong>P.S. I already have a full-time job that isn't dead-end, there is a very real opportunity to make more money, it's a pretty stable company in a world of outsourcing and automation etc. I can see it being here in 50 years.</strong></p><p></p><p>So if I had kids right now, we wouldn't need to go on the dole or anything. The question of funds isn't an issue. </p><p></p><p>I understand having kids is a very personal decision/choice, it's entirely up to the person at hand. But we all can benefit from advice or input from others from time to time. </p><p></p><p>Don't have a ton of life experience here, maybe there's something about this equation (see above) that i'm missing here. Don't want to make shot-in-the-dark life changing call w/o some kind of feedback (or advice et cetera) from someone who (preferably) has been there, done that.</p><p></p><p>~Peace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SomethingCursed, post: 167339, member: 10097"] I'm a fairly young guy (not old enough to even legally drink yet), but I've always wanted to pass on my genes.. ever since I was.. 13 or 14 years old. It's just something I've always had a drive and push to do. The concept of having a son or daughter, admittedly, pushes me on to flirt and try to pickup just about every suitable (see: attractive) woman in my vicinity. (I've been at my new job for not even a week, already went for 4 girls lol. All blondes! Working on my 5th. Driven, not desperate (; I'll find a suitable mate here eventually! cx) But there is still something in the back of my mind telling me to NOT do such a thing, yet, my head (both kinds) is telling me that I MUST have kids, so i'm kind of at odds with myself here. There is a sort of.. struggle, going on. I have many concerns here, divorce can be devastating not only to the family but to ones personal piggy bank. Kids can weigh you down and prevent you from accomplishing things that you've always wanted to. On the flip side however, you will have a sort of informal insurance policy. If SHTF, you have people there of your own blood who wouldn't mind (ideally) to take care of you should you fall ill. There is the plus of having something here when you leave, if you die after having kids.. a certain part of you will always live on. If you didn't like the way your dad (or mom) raised you, you have an opportunity to do something different. Having kids is a positive thing, it's a blessing. And in a world full of distrust, negativity and struggle.. it's kinda nice having something like a kid to look after. It's nice being able to have a relationship with a brand new human that you and someone else has created. It's a miracle tbh. But kids (and divorce) can suck away every dime you've ever made and will ever make. Not to mention alimony, lawyer fees, court costs and child support if SRHTF. So, again, i'm at a loss here. It's like, damned if you do, damned if you don't. I'm going to be very successful in life, in my career (see: day job) and beyond. But I don't want to have success at the expense of not having kids. I tend to believe in a certain unpopular pseudo-scientific principle.. and I believe it applies to me. That is, my genes are too damn good NOT to pass on. I'd be doing a disservice to mankind if I decided to opt out of having kids. Just being honest here. Basically, what is your opinion on having kids and/or getting married? Would you recommend it? If you could go back in time and tell your younger self one thing.. would you warn him/her to not have kids? Is divorce really as terrible (financially and otherwise) as I'm told? And finally, what advice would you have for an 18 YR old guy from America who is planning on having kids in the very near (see: 3-5 years, ideally a bit earlier) future? Do you believe marriage is an essential part to having kids? Can one not be married, have kids and still have a successful family there? [B]P.S. I already have a full-time job that isn't dead-end, there is a very real opportunity to make more money, it's a pretty stable company in a world of outsourcing and automation etc. I can see it being here in 50 years.[/B] So if I had kids right now, we wouldn't need to go on the dole or anything. The question of funds isn't an issue. I understand having kids is a very personal decision/choice, it's entirely up to the person at hand. But we all can benefit from advice or input from others from time to time. Don't have a ton of life experience here, maybe there's something about this equation (see above) that i'm missing here. Don't want to make shot-in-the-dark life changing call w/o some kind of feedback (or advice et cetera) from someone who (preferably) has been there, done that. ~Peace [/QUOTE]
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