Relationship Woes: Need Advice/Venting

LostInSauce

LostInSauce

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She's always been sweet and good to me. But I just think we're very different people, and that she doesn't understand me. What do I do? What do I say? How do I let her down easy? She tells me I'm the best thing that's ever happened to her, and how grateful she is for me being in her life. But I'm struggling. I feel...I worry I'm gonna have to live my whole life without being understood by the person who's supposedly my soul-mate.
 
LostInSauce said:
She's always been sweet and good to me. But I just think we're very different people, and that she doesn't understand me. What do I do? What do I say? How do I let her down easy? She tells me I'm the best thing that's ever happened to her, and how grateful she is for me being in her life. But I'm struggling. I feel...I worry I'm gonna have to live my whole life without being understood by the person who's supposedly my soul-mate.
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Based on your feelings, I would have to surmise that you never fell in love with her. If you had fallen in love with her, your mind would have conditioned you to accept her without question. That's how love works. The question I have is do you want someone to be with you for reasons other than love?
 

Well, I think her feelings for me are genuine and that she does love me. It's not her. It's me. I just...I dunno, man. She's a sweet girl. She's always good to me. But we're nothing alike. She's afraid of her own shadow, and I'm me, just as an example.
 

LostInSauce said:
Well, I think her feelings for me are genuine and that she does love me. It's not her. It's me. I just...I dunno, man. She's a sweet girl. She's always good to me. But we're nothing alike. She's afraid of her own shadow, and I'm me, just as an example.
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I'm on the fence as I don't really think romantic love exists. It can be simulated, but after a certain amount of time, the hormone rush wears off. If you don't have a best friend at the end of that, then you have nothing worth keeping. The fact that you have to question this feeling means you're ready to move on.
 
LostInSauce said:
She's always been sweet and good to me. But I just think we're very different people, and that she doesn't understand me. What do I do? What do I say? How do I let her down easy? She tells me I'm the best thing that's ever happened to her, and how grateful she is for me being in her life. But I'm struggling. I feel...I worry I'm gonna have to live my whole life without being understood by the person who's supposedly my soul-mate.
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I have the same problem. I've been involved with too many Atlantean Queens, Helens, Delilahs and Cleopatras, then and now, it seems. Nothing against them, but I just don't want to live that way anymore. And even in the spiritual groups I become involved with, the people can't understand me. So, I guess the thing is to either accept what's in your life, with the possibility that the person with you will grow in awareness of your reality, especially if they love you, or distance yourself, hoping someone will eventually come into your life, who's already more like you, which may never happen, especially if you hurt the person with you now. It may be more likely that someone like that will find me, if ever, since I'm not presently in a relationship.
 
Odrade said:
I have the same problem. I've been involved with too many Atlantean Queens, Helens, Delilahs and Cleopatras, then and now, it seems. Nothing against them, but I just don't want to live that way anymore. And even in the spiritual groups I become involved with, the people can't understand me. So, I guess the thing is to either accept what's in your life, with the possibility that the person with you will grow in awareness of your reality, especially if they love you, or distance yourself, hoping someone will eventually come into your life, who's already more like you, which may never happen, especially if you hurt the person with you now. It may be more likely that someone like that will find me, if ever, since I'm not presently in a relationship.
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It's many times better to just deal with the lack of love than be alone, though. If you can tolerate them, why be all alone? There is no guarantee someone better will come along. The grass may not be greener on the other side.
 
PaulaJedi said:
It's many times better to just deal with the lack of love than be alone, though. If you can tolerate them, why be all alone? There is no guarantee someone better will come along. The grass may not be greener on the other side.
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I believe it's important to be sociable with many people, if you can, whatever that may lead to. I've been told such things as hugging me is like hugging a tree and that I should be more sociable, by a guru. Hopefully I'm improving. It's obviously connected to my karmic-reincarnational patterns, going back numerous lifetimes on this world and other worlds, before I came here, so much so, that when I first heard the song, Lonesome Loser, by Little River Band, in 1979, I felt it was a song about me.
 
Odrade said:
I believe it's important to be sociable with many people, if you can, whatever that may lead to. I've been told such things as hugging me is like hugging a tree and that I should be more sociable, by a guru. Hopefully I'm improving. It's obviously connected to my karmic-reincarnational patterns, going back numerous lifetimes on this world and other worlds, before I came here, so much so, that when I first heard the song, Lonesome Loser, by Little River Band, in 1979, I felt it was a song about me.
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Are you a robot?
 

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